Of course, the effectiveness of this tactic will depend on how different you were while you were dating. If you were more attentive while trying to woo your ex but a little less so during the relationship, this tactic may work.
However, if your behavior did a complete 180 and you changed from a sweet person to a verbally or physically abusive person, this tactic will probably only remind your ex of how crazy the change was.
Play it cool. Even after you initiate contact again, you should avoid communicating with your ex obsessively. Make sure that your ex knows how much you miss him/her, but do not seem desperate about staying in your ex’s life. You want to remind your ex why he or she liked you, but you also want to still give the person space to miss you.
Try this rule of thumb: let your ex contact you twice as much as you are contacting him or her.
Show pictures of your new life. Once you begin contact again, feel free to share pictures of your new life with your ex. Of course, the best route to share them is likely more subtle than just sending them in a text message; try posting them on social media, as long as your ex is still friends with you. If not, you can occasionally send him or her a text of what you’re doing.
Show you care on special occasions. Remembering special dates, like your ex’s birthday or Christmas, is a good way to be subtle about expressing affection. These small gestures can let your ex know that he/she is still on your mind without making it seem like your ex is the only thing you think about.
When taking special considerations into account, it is better not to include any of your anniversaries among them.
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Keep your gestures small. A card on Christmas or a birthday works well, but pricey tickets to a sports game or expensive jewelry is coming on too strong.
Don’t beg for attention. Jealousy can work to your advantage if done right, but too often, people are too obvious in their attempts to make another person feel jealous. If you’re doing something just because you know it will catch your ex’s eye, it is likely that you will come off as desperate. For instance, don’t date someone your ex knows just to make you